One of the things people do not understand is that simply having an option available is not a reason to take it. You should only do things that are a net benefit to yourself. Even then, you should choose the most beneficial thing. Anything less is simply destructive behavior.
What do I mean by “benefit yourself?” Well, look at Mother Theresa. She sacrificed her life serving strangers, all to benefit herself. You get to define, for yourself, what is the things you most desire.
People universally desire happiness. Sometimes they think that some things will give them happiness, and then they get disappointed when they realize it does not. Hopefully, they are smart and change their perception of reality so that their goals change. If drugs and alcohol don’t make someone happy, then they should stop doing drugs and drinking alcohol, and try something else.
I think we know, as a society, what things bring real happiness and what things do not. Money does not buy happiness. A happy family does. Dedicating your life to your job does not bring you happiness. Balancing work, life, and relaxation does. And so on, and so forth.
Does sexual relationships bring happiness? I think a lot of people believe that the excitement of the interaction is happiness. Of course, it is simply a fleeting sensation. Sexual relationships with your spouse, when both of you are committed and faithful to each other, does bring some degree of happiness, but I believe husbands and wives who love each other depend more on the happiness of serving one another than the moments of passion. In other words, to me, it is an expression of love and devotion, which love and devotion are the source of happiness, not the other way around.
And so we are left to debate the question: Why are homosexual relationships justified? Why would anyone choose to engage in such behavior? Is there any evidence that lasting happiness can be had by such a relationship? If so, is it superior to the lasting happiness of a loving family?
If homosexual relationships can at best only bring some happiness, but not as much as heterosexual marriage, then why bother with it?
Can we say, “Ahh, see, Tom over there, who devotes his life to his job, he isn’t doing what’s best in life, because he should be building a family as well. And he’ll one day wake up and realize what a waste he has been. But we shouldn’t tell him that he’s doing things wrong, because he finds a little bit of happiness in his silly pursuit.” Or do we say, “Tom, I know you think you will be happy by working so hard, but seriously, there is more to life than work. I want you to take some time, find a wife and devote yourself to your marriage, and raise a family. When you’re 80 years old and have fifteen grandchildren, you’ll be truly happy. If you’re 80 years old and only have a few million dollars, you won’t be.”
Or are sexual relationships sacrosanct, something we cannot possibly reason about?