I read the article about Dharun Ravi, who spied on his roommate and caught him kissing another man. When he publicized the fact, his roommate committed suicide a few days later. A court found him guilty of various crimes.
I have to wonder what is going on here. If homosexuality is perfectly normal, why would anyone be ashamed to be caught kissing another member of the same sex? Or do people who are homosexual not truly believe it is normal? When they try to convince us that it is normal, maybe they are simply trying to convince themselves.
Let me explain. I do things that are different from others. Some of them I am quite proud of, and even if I were the last man on earth doing it, I would continue doing it. If I were discovered, even if I tried to keep the act hidden, I would not be ashamed of doing it. If people ostracized or abused me or even threatened my life because of my behavior, I would feel a bit sad, but I wouldn’t stop doing the behavior, and I certainly wouldn’t commit suicide.
The reason why is because I believe the behavior is fundamentally right and good and honorable. My view doesn’t depend on what others think of me or my actions; I have made a conscious decision and that’s what I have decided is right.
I get the feeling that the suicide problem in the homosexual community is not because there are people who think it is odd or unnatural behavior, or even because some people think it is sinful behavior. Instead, I believe the reason why homosexuals tend to commit suicide when they are discovered or mocked is because they know the behavior is wrong, and have no self-control to correct their behavior to match what they believe to be right. In the end, when people point this out through ridicule, they are incapable of dealing with the cognitive dissonance and are lead to believe that only suicide can help them escape the anguish of that state of mind.
In other words, they aren’t committing suicide because of the actions of the people around them; they are committing suicide because of what they believe on the inside.
I believe we need to change those beliefs. I believe that the beliefs that the homosexual community would like to force on us are not good things, and are likely the reason why homosexuals commit suicide in the first place.
Rather than telling homosexual people they are fundamentally different than everyone else, and incapable of change, perhaps we should tell them that they are the same as everyone. What makes them different is how they choose to spend their time. If they don’t like what they do, then they can simply choose to do something different.
We can begin by eliminating the fraud that is the idea that homosexuality is genetic, or expose the fact that everyone is homosexual, or rather, that the genetic difference between homosexuals and heterosexuals is not significant. What a great lie it is that someone is destined to become something, regardless of what they choose they would like to do! If I believed I was destined to be the way I am, I would likely commit suicide as well, because life would be pointless.
In our church, we tell people that temptations are a part of life, one of the primary reasons why we are even alive. If you were worthless, then Satan wouldn’t bother tempting you to do evil since you wouldn’t matter. Since you are valuable and important, and especially when you make a conscious effort to become a righteous person, Satan is going to tempt you more strongly than ever before. This is a belief that turns something that would normally wear someone down into something that builds them up. When we separate the temptation from the individual, then the individual can begin the process of eliminating bad behaviors one by one, despite whatever temptations exist. The individuals no longer identify with the temptations. The individuals begin overcoming temptations and become masters of their own fate.
People often wonder, “What good is Christianity?” Well, here is an instance. I cannot believe a believer in Jesus Christ who believed in these doctrines would turn to suicide if they were discovered as behaving as a homosexual. I cannot believe that this set of beliefs would lead them to believe they are worthless as a human being. Quite the contrary, the beliefs will help them see how important they are to the people around them, and provide them a way to change their behavior, without giving them the sore burden of cognitive dissonance.
This is the primary reason why we encourage people who have committed gross sins to meet with the bishop. The bishop is able to communicate these doctrines, and inspire them to see themselves differently. With this paradigm shift, conquering bad behavior becomes possible.
It also teaches those who suppose they are morally superior how important it is to love, welcome, and forgive those who are morally inferior. After all, today’s homosexual could be tomorrow’s church leader. Piety is turned on its head. Pious people behave impiously because of their piety. Isn’t this what Christ did? He came to the earth not to hang around people who were righteous, but to deliver those who were not. Shouldn’t we be doing the same? Shouldn’t our goal in life be to free everyone from every behavior they wish they didn’t participate in?
The desire to mock and to ridicule would disappear if we simply applied the beliefs of Christianity in our own lives. The devastating “crime” of suicide would all but disappear when people no longer believed that they were worthless or undesirable in our society.
I think, therefore, that the ultimate reason why homosexuals are committing suicide is not as simple as people wish it was. It is not because we don’t have homosexual marriage, it is not because there are people who believe it is wrong. It is because of evil, evil in the hearts of the mocker and the mocked, and everyone in between. The solution, therefore, is to apply the Gospel of Christ until evil is erased from everyone’s hearts.